I had a friend run over from behind by a woman who may not have been paying atention, or who knows what. In the end, she was ticketed for something minor, his widow recovered a settlement from the insurance company and his kids have no dad. We all still miss our friend after 3 years, we had raced together since he was just a pup out of high school, but I see over and over if you kill or maim a pedestrian, very little happens, especially if the driver is sober.<br><br>
I'm more troubled when I see people share a belief that cyclists somehow have it coming for daring to ride on the road. I see it as an outgrowth of a self centered crybaby culture that values haste and self over community and dignity.<br><br>
I wrote this after his death:<br><br>
I remember the first time I met Jon, it must have been 1991, when we first moved back in the area. After all the years, and miles and races, the one thing Jon would always remember about our first encounter was the first time I qualified for Empires in Syracuse in 1991 and I asked Bob Deroo if we were supposed to ride in the aero bars for the team time trial. Jon would always get a chuckle out of that, and so started our time racing together that summer.<br><br>
When I look back over 15 years at who is left still racing bikes, the list is not very long. Jon was not only one of this small group that rode through over a decade and a half, he was one of the strongest. Jon stayed with it because he had a contagious love for the sport. No matter how dismal the weather, how difficult the race, Jon would always find the smallest glimmer of positive in the situation and ride right up to you in the middle of the pack in the driving rain and announce that his legs felt pretty good today or somesuch. I never heard Jon complain, not when his opportunity to race as a professional fell through, a disappointment which must have been so bitter for a young man who dreamed for years of that one chance. Never complained when he was working long hours as an iron worker and losing some of his fitness, never complaining when the responsibilities of a family kept him busy. Jon would throw a leg over the bike and do his best, when he was flying or when he was struggling, he was always positive, happy and genuinely interested in all of the faces and people connected with the sport.<br><br>
I have some memories of Jon over the years that make me laugh or cry:<br><br>
I remember Jon driving around in this Chevrolet Cavalier, possibly one of the worst cars ever made. True to form, Jon had nothing but positive things to say about it and proceeded to drive it all over the east coast to bike races.<br><br>
I remember when Jon snuck an air conditioner into Empire Games at Buffalo State.<br><br>
I remember the only time I recall Jon getting mad about something and it only lasted about an hour. Through some horseplay, Jon's fan got broken when we were at the Games in Albany. Losing your fan in those hot dorms was a big deal and the guilty parties attempted a repair with tire glue which lead to the fan flying apart in an mangled heap upon Jon's flipping the switch. He laughed about it the next day and for years after.<br><br>
I remember when Jon was starting out and he would make enough money for gas by weeding Mrs. Stookie's garden down the street when he lived in Rushville. I was able to visit there once, I remember his parents were such down to earth people living in this big farm house, his dad was this mountain of a man who worked in construction all his life and they kept these great big rotwiler dogs in the house.<br><br>
On a ride once from Wyoming county, we stopped by Jon's grandmother's house, which I'm thinking was in Stafford over on route 5. She kept giving us more cookies and filled up our water bottles for us, it was like we were the conquering heroes to be out riding in the cold. They were the nicest people and were so proud of their grandson, they just beamed.<br><br>
When I was staying home to raise my young son, Jon was sort of living down the road in East Betheny, I say sort of because he spent most of his week in Albany working at a job site and would commute home for the weekends. Every now and again, he would be home and would stop by on his way out for a ride, all professional looking in his Preferred Care kit with a clear plastic jacket stuffed in his back pocket just in case, heading out to attack the hills. He'd just stop by to say hello, not fill up his bottles or borrow some tools, just to say hello to Evan and I while we were loafing around the house reading Clifford. We were just guys who raced bikes together, but Jon would make a point to stop by for no reason, just because he could and that was the kind of guy he was.<br><br>
I remember when we raced together and won money, we'd give it all to Jon and maybe Wednesday the next week you'd get a check in the mailbox with your cut, plus a gasoline factor, calculated right to the penny.<br><br>
I remember riding back from a Giro race in Buffalo, talking with Jon about being a dad. I talked about how it changed my life and made me complete and Jon related that he had grown up in a house where his parents raised many foster children over the years, so parenting was just part of his life from the get go. I remember driving home thinking this guy has all the tools to be a great dad, I hope they have a bunch of kids- he has patience, is unflappable, has strong faith and brings happiness to others. What a great dad, I thought. This one makes me cry to write.<br><br>
For all of the great memories I have of this life cut too short, I have to close with a tremendous sadness I feel for the people who were left behind. To me, Jon was a guy that I bumped shoulders with on the weekends and shared a few laughs with in the parking lot. I am so very sad for my own loss, but I feel a larger sadness for those who knew him as a husband, father, son or grandson. In this life, Jon stepped up and did what was needed to be a good father and provider, so many miles we have traveled from the fresh faced kid I knew in 1991. God speed, my friend.