[jebba]

<p>So my daughter got an invitation for a halloween party.  She's in first grade, which is a fairly transitional time, so I wasn't sure if this was the kind of party we take her to and stay, or whether we drop her off.  Easy, my 3 year old, really wants to go, but I wasn't sure if he was expected. </p>
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<p>I didn't really know how to ask, because I didn't want to ask for an invitation for my son if there wasn't meant to be.  So I emailed the parents:</p>
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<div><em>Miss Sunshine was very excited to hear about Friend's party; thank you for the invitation!</em></div>
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<div><em>I was wondering if I could have a little more detail about the party so we can plan our Halloween day.  Is this a party for families and siblings too, or should Miss Sunshine be dropped off?  Soli has a <span class="yshortcuts" id="user_lw_1287174834_1"><span style="color:#366388;">little brother</span></span> who she wants to go trick or treating with, so we're trying to figure how we're going to organize the day.</em></div>
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<div>This is the response I got:</div>
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<div><em>We are excited to have Miss Sunshine at the party! We will have some crafts, snacks & cupcakes. </em></div>
<div><em>Whatever is best for you is fine.... you can drop off or are welcome to come and bring the family. </em></div>
<div><em>Just let me know who is coming.</em></div>
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<div>Her response doesn't really answer my question, does it?  Will there be other parents there, as happens in 90% of the birthday parties we've been to up through kindergarten, or will we be the only parents and younger sibling in a party filled with little girls doing crafts?
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<div>Did I do wrong by asking? Did I ask in the wrong way? </div>
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[RaisingArizonainNH]

<p>  yes she did anwer you - either is fine.  She is being flexible -  You can choose- drop her off OR go with and bring her brother.  You didn't ask it wrong adn really she did answer you!</p>
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<p>  My advice - go with, take the brother and help out and meet the mom. I wouldn't leave my kid at a home with parents I didn't know when they were  6-7 yrs.   If I knew them and all maybe... </p>
<p>  Dress 'em and go.</p>

 

[Mrtambalynman]

<p>FWIW this may be a good time to start getting Easy acquainted with the fact that he and miss sunshine will be developing seperate friends and having seperate parties to go to. </p>

 

[katholeenie]

<p>How'd it go? Or did it not happen yet?</p>

 

[jebba]

<p>Hasn't happened yet.  I've decided I'm more interested in letting Easy be happy than worrying about etiquette, so I'm gonna take them both.  Easy will be missing another party the day before.</p>
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<p>RANH - I don't know these folks personally but several of my friends do.  Our school is a smallish neighborhood school, so everyone knows each other or at least knows of each other.</p>

 

[merigayle]

<p>Sounds totally ok for you and both LOs to go.</p>

 

[duckgeek]

<p>She answered exactly how we would answer in a similar situation. </p>
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<p>Bring the EZ.  Relax. Have fun. </p>

 

[Mrtambalynman]

<p>We had a parent recently invite T1 to a princess themed b-day party for her daughter.  Unfortunately she sent 20 invites out and only had 14 spaces available so if you were late in responding (we received the invite while on vacation) your kid was SOL.  <img alt="" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/roll_eyes.gif" style="width:15px;height:15px;" title="">  MrsT poked her by accepting the invite even though she knew there were already 14 acceptances.  We heard later that the mom sent out an e-mail instructing the parents to dress their children in clean new condition princess dresses and tried to change kids into different clothes at the party if they didn't meet her dress expectations.</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>duckgeek</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/70663/wth-kid-party-edition#post_1955318"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-right:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-bottom:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>She answered exactly how we would answer in a similar situation. </p>
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<p>Bring the EZ.  Relax. Have fun. </p>
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[altoids]

<p>Dear Lord.<br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Mrtambalynman</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/70663/wth-kid-party-edition#post_1955391"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>We had a parent recently invite T1 to a princess themed b-day party for her daughter.  Unfortunately she sent 20 invites out and only had 14 spaces available so if you were late in responding (we received the invite while on vacation) your kid was SOL.  <img alt="" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/roll_eyes.gif" style="width:15px;height:15px;" title="">  MrsT poked her by accepting the invite even though she knew there were already 14 acceptances.  We heard later that the mom sent out an e-mail instructing the parents to dress their children in clean new condition princess dresses and tried to change kids into different clothes at the party if they didn't meet her dress expectations.</p>
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[merigayle]

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I would have wanted to go to just f*** with her. Wowzers.</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Mrtambalynman</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/70663/wth-kid-party-edition#post_1955391"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>We had a parent recently invite T1 to a princess themed b-day party for her daughter.  Unfortunately she sent 20 invites out and only had 14 spaces available so if you were late in responding (we received the invite while on vacation) your kid was SOL.  <img alt="" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/roll_eyes.gif" style="width:15px;height:15px;" title="">  MrsT poked her by accepting the invite even though she knew there were already 14 acceptances.  We heard later that the mom sent out an e-mail instructing the parents to dress their children in clean new condition princess dresses and tried to change kids into different clothes at the party if they didn't meet her dress expectations.</p>
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[jebba]

<p>Wow, Mr. T.  I don't want to be around when her daughter gets married. </p>

 

[runfishhunt]

<p>Helicopter mom raises the bar to a new level - news at 11!!!<br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Mrtambalynman</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/70663/wth-kid-party-edition#post_1955391"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>We had a parent recently invite T1 to a princess themed b-day party for her daughter.  Unfortunately she sent 20 invites out and only had 14 spaces available so if you were late in responding (we received the invite while on vacation) your kid was SOL.  <img alt="" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/roll_eyes.gif" style="width:15px;height:15px;" title="">  MrsT poked her by accepting the invite even though she knew there were already 14 acceptances.  We heard later that the mom sent out an e-mail instructing the parents to dress their children in clean new condition princess dresses and tried to change kids into different clothes at the party if they didn't meet her dress expectations.</p>
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[duckgeek]

<p>I would have sent my kid as Cinderella- the "before" version.</p>

 

[Mrtambalynman]

<p>Unfortunately, we're kinda hoping that T1 doesn't become too chummy with this girl.  Since the French Immersion world is fairly small, we're definitely stuck with them unless one of us leaves the program. <br><br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>jebba</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/70663/wth-kid-party-edition#post_1955438"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-right:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-bottom:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Wow, Mr. T.  I don't want to be around when her daughter gets married. </p>
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