[Grizzly]

<p>I dunno.</p>
<p> </p>
<p>We have a friend whose partner left her yesterday in what I would describe as a most cowardly manner.  He packed up and left while she was at yoga.  Left a note.  Gonzo.  Back to the US of A.  Hasta-la-bye-bye.</p>
<p><br>
Anyway I spent about half an hour on the phone with her, being far more angry on her behalf than she was.  I feel a bit like a brother here, older brother (even though I'm younger).  She does need some looking after from time to time, she's fragile, a bit of a hippy, but a sweetie nonetheless.  Another friend and I scoped out this guy a few years back and gave the older brother's stamp of approval... </p>
<p> </p>
<p>We gave this guy the thumbs up.  Not that it was asked for.  So I am sad for her that it didn't work out, and angry with him for not having the balls to confront issues up front.</p>
<p> </p>
<p>The missus then spent the rest of the evening on the phone with her, and then on the phone with our other friends talking about her...  I just wanted to poke the guy in the nose.  Perhaps the wimmin folk do it better.  I dunno.</p>

 

[RaisingArizonainNH]

<p> I  am pretty sure that most women wouldn't mind giving a guy like that a poke in the nose, as well, Girzzly!</p>
<p> </p>
<p> She is probably glad in a way to know what a jerko he was and be rid of his sorry butt.</p>

 

[the kenyan]

<p>I wouldn't be too certain.  Post that in the CH and we'll have an angry women posse assembled in 2 seconds flat for nose poking purposes.  <span><img alt="cool.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/cool.gif"></span></p>
<p> </p>
<p> </p>
<p><span>I don't know though.  It sounds very person/situation dependent. </span> [narcissistic rant]it's bloody easy to deal with a relationship ending when you have another guy waiting in the wings and have been seeing him on the side already! [/narcissistic rant]</p>

 

[Mrtambalynman]

<p>Tell us how you really feel Ducks!  <span><img alt="wink.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/wink.gif" style="width:16px;height:16px;"></span></p>
<p> </p>
<p>I used to think the same way Grizz - (it was based on the whole male brain biology thing) now I'm not so sure.  If I feel crappy and have an on/off brain, imagine what its like for a female who's brain is constantly on. </p>

 

[Buxtehude]

<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>RaisingArizonainNH</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/73226/women-in-general-handle-relationship-endings-better-than-men#post_1991259"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p> She is probably glad in a way to know what a jerko he was and be rid of his sorry butt.</p>
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It may take her a while to be glad, but she probably will be.<br>
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[Buxtehude]

<p>Oh, and I don't think women are any better at handling other people's relationship endings.</p>
<p> </p>
<p>Dude-pals have been very helpful in my breakup stuff. It's a relief when a dude-pal wants to poke your ex's nose. Because then, it starts to dawn on you that you may have been treated shabbily, and that may lead you to losing those gooey "oh, but I loooove him!" feelings which may lead you to expect better treatment from potential romantic partners and to weed out the crudsters.</p>
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<p><rambling!></p>
<p> </p>
<p>Or whatever.</p>

 

[Buxtehude]

<p>Three cheers for the dude-pals!</p>

 

[Grizzly]

<p>Rode transit in with the other "older brother" and while we agree that there are always two sides to every story and that we can see some of the two sides, simply up and leaving was a shitty thing to do.</p>
<p> </p>
<p>He also agreed that a poke in the nose was warranted.  Poking is much more civilized than punching.</p>

 

[jebba]

<p>I think there is a silver lining to those kinds dumps.  When someone acts like a complete cad, there's some angstthat gets redirected to anger at the other person's behavior.  Being angry helps the healing, I think.</p>
<p> </p>
<p>I once had a guy break up with my at my birthday party.  I started to cry, and then seconds later, people came into the room with the lit birthday cake.  I tried to pass of the tears as overwhelming love for all my friends, but it was pretty obvious what happened.  It helped later that everyone wanted to throw tomatoes at him.</p>

 

[fox-runr]

I don't know. a bad break-upper is not necessarily a bad person. I came very close to bolting on my marriage, just up and leaving...remembering I had kids at home that would wake up to no explanation of why mom was gone made me turn the car around and work on our problems. I'm not a bad person. I just " run" when a situation gets to be too much for me. Some people get mad, some get even, some cry, some run away...or just run....<br><br>
3:00 am treadmill runs for the crazy lady

 

[Horrible Peanut]

<p>I've taken some breakups pretty badly.</p>
<p>I've also taken them extremely well.</p>
<p>BUT- I think part of what helps us heal quickly is good friends- and it's common for women to rely on their friends more than men.</p>

 

[Rainey]

<p>Maybe he was afraid she would get violent or freak out. It's happened to me before! </p>

 

[Grizzly]

<p>Rainey, it's happened to me too, but this woman would not.  She's still defending him.  Gah.</p>

 

[Buxtehude]

<p><br>
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<p>  She's still defending him.  Gah.</p>
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<p><br>
That's got to be frustrating to hear.</p>
<p> </p>
<p>"He's had an abusive childhood!"</p>
<p>"But he's confused!"</p>
<p>"He's just afraid of ______!"</p>
<p>"He's under a lot of stress!"</p>
<p>"He's got some psychological stuff going on!"</p>
<p>"His parents are very cold!"</p>
<p>"Money is tight for him!"</p>
<p>"It's the economy, stupid!"</p>
<p>"The poor guy is an engineer!"</p>
<p> </p>
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[Buxtehude]

<p>(heh! engineering joke!)</p>
<p> </p>
<p>I must've dated five or six of them, back in 2008-ish into 2009.</p>

 

[Horrible Peanut]

<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Buxtehude</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/73226/women-in-general-handle-relationship-endings-better-than-men#post_1992609"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>(heh! engineering joke!)</p>
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<p>I must've dated five or six of them, back in 2008-ish into 2009.</p>
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<br><br><p>Ever dated an MBA, baby?</p>

 

[Buxtehude]

<p><br><br>
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<div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Horrible Peanut</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/73226/women-in-general-handle-relationship-endings-better-than-men#post_1992633"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><br><br><br><br><p>Ever dated an MBA, baby?</p>
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No, I have not.</p>
<p> </p>
<p>I think I'll <strong><em>become</em></strong> one, instead.</p>
<p> </p>
<p>Cheers, cutie!<br>
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