[refinnej10]

<a href="http://www.newsweek.com/id/129594/page/1" target="_blank">http://www.newsweek.com/id/129594/page/1</a><br><br><br>
I read this article yesterday and I was surprised. I guess I never realized that surrogacy was so controversial. I mean, of course I've heard of the stories where the woman carrying the baby refused to give it up, but I just assumed that was a rare exception.<br><br>
So ladies, would you do it? And PRT men, how would you feel if your wife/so became a surrogate? Is there a minimum amount of money you'd have to be paid or are you more of a gratis type surrogate.<br><br>
I would do it in a heartbeat for my brother and his wife (and I've told them so). This I would do for free (free = they can reimburse me for any excessive medical costs not covered by insurance, but I don't expect to net any cash for this transaction).<br><br>
I would consider doing it for a complete stranger, but I don't know if my DH would align with that.<br><br>
I have pretty easy pregnancies and I tend not to really bond with the baby until after it is born (perhaps it's just too abstract for me before that).

 

[QuixoticNotions]

I don't know if I could. The connection pops up pretty quickly... though maybe it wouldn't if I knew from the outset it wasn't mine. Hard to say.<br>
I probably would not for $20,000. At least this time, it got in the way of me being able to work... so I'd be hesitant to put my body through stress and jeopardize my ability to work for a sum that you can make at a low-level job.<br><br>
I see no problem with the practice; I don't get that either.

 

[diablita]

I didn't realize it was this controversial, either. I do know a couple of people who tried to go the surrogate route, though, and it didn't work out for them. One couple ended up adopting a little girl from Russia.<br><br>
As someone who has suffered with infertility challenges, how could I not be an advocate?

 

[merigayle]

I did not think it was controversial. I have met many people who have used surrogates and many people who are surrogates. For many couples, a gestational carrier is their only option to have a biological child, for whatever reason. Most of the gestational carriers i have met were either military wives who were done having their own children, closer friends or family of the couple or woman who hired them, or women who love being pregnant, but had enough children of their own. All of the gestational carriers i have met have been wonderful, giving women who are thrilled to help a couple have a biological child that they would have never had otherwise.<br><br>
The international adoption procedures and laws are changing rapidly and if you went to today to adopt from China, you are looking at multi year waiting (average 4 i think), so adoption is becoming harder and harder each year.

 

[CrazyEye]

I don't see a problem with it. And I'd consider being a surrogate, even though I don't know what it's like to be pregnant. Maybe I'd want to be pregnant once before being a surrogate to know if I'd be right for the job.

 

[Complete Pete]

I don't understand the why some find it so important for a child to share genetics, but each to his/her own. Had never really thought about it much until the article was posted on MSN. As a guy, surrogacy is a non issue, but DW said she could never carry a child for the sole intent of giving it up at the end of term.

 

[bikegirl72]

I would do it. I don't think I could be an egg donor though.

 

[Colby]

I bond at the instant I know I'm pregnant, so it would be impossible for me to do.<br><br>
But I don't see anything wrong with it if people are that intent on having a biological child.

 

[Lintu]

I'm not sure whether I could do it.<br><br>
If it would help me earn the money I need to have my own children, I might. If it would be helping someone close to me, I'd consider that, too. I'd be more likely to donate eggs to them, I think, if that were the case.

 

[Diane95]

I think surrogates are woefully underpaid, given the risks.

 

[Complete Pete]

It surprises me you could give up a baby you've carried to term but not an egg.

 

[refinnej10]

I could do surrogacy OR egg donation, but not both at the same time (which I think isn't really allowed anyway).

 

[Lintu]

For people who feel that way, it's a difference in gestating someone else's egg/sperm (genetics) and giving away their own.

 

[muzicgrl]

There are very, very few people I would do this for. I think it would be really hard (read: impossible) to give up the baby unless it was to someone I really cared about. Came to think of it...there is really only one person I would even consider doing this for.

 

[bikegirl72]

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It is because I know that I couldn't stand knowing that MY baby is out there somewhere.<br><br>
I could handle knowing that I was able to give a couple something that they wanted so badly. I have been fortunate that I have never had to struggle to get pregnant. I have wanted to be a mother since I was 6 years old so I can't imagine not being able to be one.

 

[luckylily]

I think surrogacy can be a great option for many people. I could never be a surrogate, even though I had a very easy (for twins) pregnancy and actually sometimes miss certain things about being pregnant. My own pregnancy was such an amazing thing for me to experience, and I bonded with my babies so early on, I just don't think I could carry a child knowing I would give it up at the end.<br><br>
Maybe for one of my siblings I could do it, knowing I could see the baby as often as I wanted...

 

[diablita]

That's the only situation I can think of where I would even consider it.

 

[dcoroner77]

Ready for some irony? I always thought I'd like to be a surrogate. I wanted to experience pregnancy without having to deal with the kid afterward. (This was many, many years ago when I did not want children. At. All.)<br><br>
How ironic is it that now I want a child more than anything in the world, and can't stay pregnant?<br><br>
Anyway, I have no problem with surrogacy at all. I think it's truly a selfless thing to do. I'd have a much easier time gestating a child that I had no genetic connection with than being an egg donor. (Laws no longer allow the surrogate to have been the egg donor as well, so there is no genetic connection. The surrogate is literally a womb for rent.)

 

[solarpowered]

I volunteered to be a surrogate for a family member when we thought that might be the route that would have to be taken. I also offered egg donation. I'm not sure I could do it for a stranger, though...

 

[Chelle]

I couldn't donate an egg, for the reasons Bikegirl stated. I would be a surrogate in a heartbeat as long as I had some assurance that the couple would be responsible, loving parents. I think to participate in bringing a life into the world for people who want a child so badly that they are willing to take a chance with using a surrogate has got to be one of the most loving things a person could ever experience! Sign me up! I think it would be amazing!