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<p>Can't. I'll see her again this weekend at a cookout at our aunt's, and then again 2 weeks after that at brunch. And being ignored (in her mind, really I was just really busy and only emailed once instead of constantly giving her updates) is probably the biggest part of what is made her mad in the first place. <-this is in reference to the petty thing she was bitching at me about on and off over the weekend. </p>
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Yah. When I thought about when the comments were made, and other things that she has complained about lately, it is obvious there are some jealousy issues on her part. To which my response is WTF?!?</p>
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<p>It's not a competition. I learned early on, because of living in her considerable shadow and having people compare us constantly, that I can't and don't want to be her, and decided to just do my own thing. I have been happy and pretty successful doing my own thing. Which isn't to say that I don't have my own share of CRAP to deal with, believe me, I have a lot. She just isn't looking at the whole picture.</p>
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<p>Yes, I dropped off the planet for a while. With everyone, not just her. If I didn't know about something back in April when I made up my schedule through June, it didn't get done. (Seriously, I had stuff mapped out every day to get done in order to make my deadline, and often times that meant working on it from the time I got home till I went to bed.)</p>
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<p>I readily admit to dropping some balls this spring. I thought for only minor things, but apparently not. I can only do so much in a day (anyone ever read the <a href="http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory-written-by-christine-miserandino/" target="_blank">spoon theory?</a> it's the best description I've read of living with a chronic disease), and refuse to feel guilty about that.</p>
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<p>It hurts me for things to be like this. Sure, we bickered growing up, but for the last 22+ years we've been really close. I don't like this, but don't know what to do about it.</p>
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