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After the email about the ex bf getting married I went out and signed up for match. I had a wink from a guy so I sent him a rather bland email.<br>
1. How much of the emailing thing goes on before it's time to meet?<br>
2. Where do you meet?<br>
3. How many winks and emails does a person go through?<br>
4. How many people to you meet out in the real world?<br>
5. What if they are creepy axe murderers?<br>
6. What if you really like them but they don't like you.<br><br><img alt="sad2.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/sad2.gif">
 

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My DH and I met on match, six years ago. We are even more in love now than when we were first dating - it just keeps getting better.<br><br>
But...... I dated a lot on match before I met my DH. Mostly I would exchange four or five e-mails before I decided if I wanted to meet a guy. I typically would choose a coffee shop for a first meeting - places that serve drinks is usually not a great idea for a first date. I met a couple creepy possible axe murderers, but in the safety of a large coffee shop I was o.k. with that. Most of the time you can weed them out after a few e-mails and a couple of phone calls, but if one slips through you can use the excuse of "my ex came back and I really need to focus on resolving that relationship before I can date anyone else".<br><br>
If you really like them, but they don't seem to be that into you, you don't want them anyhow. I met a couple guys that I thought had potential, but they didn't seem to into me. It kind of stung, but then when I really thought about what I wanted, what my qualifications in a guy were, one of which was that he be absolutely crazy about me, I realized that I had essentially just crossed <b>them</b> off my list for being underqualified.<br><br>
Mostly, just have FUN. Date a lot of guys and be picky - you deserve nothing less than someone you are crazy about and someone who is just as crazy about you!
 

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ooo I didn't realize you could wink with out having an account. maybe I will peruse more through the site tomorrow morning and see who else I can dig up.
 

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I met my current BF on match. So far so good. <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/smile.gif"><br><br>
I personally get annoyed by too much e-mailing and phone calls before meeting the person. If it went on too long, I lost my interest. Make sure to meet them somewhere in public and if you want to meet for drinks, meet for drinks. I generally gave everyone a two date limit before I moved on.<br><br>
Have fun!
 

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I have dated off of Match, Yahoo personals, and most recently E Harmony.<br><br>
The problem I discovered with Match is that people leave their inactive accounts up for a very long time because its a PITA to take them completely down (I think Match does that on purpose so they seem more popular than they really are). Also, yes, winking does cost, but to actually email someone or read emails you have been sent you have to be a paid member. I spent a large amount of time contacting people and almost never got a response back...it was frustrating. I probably went on 3 dates total in the assorted years I was a member.<br><br>
This last time around I joined E Harmony. I havent found a winner yet but In general guys are much more responsive. I am actually communication with ~10 right now in some form or other. I have gone out on dates with 4 guys in the month that I have been a member and had a decent time with all 4 though there havent been any sparks yet.<br><br>
Edited to add: I generally meet at a local bar because I dont like coffee and I find meeting at a coffee shop in the evening a bit awkward. I just met a nice guy at a local bar last night. We had one beer and then went to dinner.
 

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Ooooo, if you go on that first date to a coffeehouse, invite me along to sit back and stalk......er, observe him.<br><br>
then I can give my motherly opinion afterwards <img alt="biggrin.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/biggrin.gif">
 

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I was thinking coffee but I don't do coffee in the evening so I don't know. Is a breakfast coffee date a bad thing? I'm much more personable when I'm only half awake.
 

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<img alt="biggrin.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/biggrin.gif"> Read my edit. I just added that...I have the same problem.
 

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I will let you stalk on the 2nd date ..... if I get a 2nd date. As much as I hate being single I hate meeting new people more. God I wish I had an arranged marriage.
 

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yeah I was thinking bar too but I'm just not sure. I'm tempted to click on the "find my spouse.com " site that is listed on the homepage here.
 

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You guys could meet at a nice bar-restaurant like Grey's Tied House [here in verona]<br><br>
or if the weather is nice, go to the Union Terrace for a brewski and some tunes.<br><br><br><br>
....then I could casually saunter up and say, "HI ERIN! WHAT'S UP?"
 

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uh... maybe I should revisit the thought on you staking out my not quite date yet.<br><br>
I love the terrace though! I can't wait for summer!
 

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It has to be a quiet relaxed bar where I can have a conversation with them. Really it doesnt matter where one meets in the end I just dont like the expectation that comes along with meeting at a restraunt. It really just needs to be any public place you feel comfortable with. I like having a beer in the evening sometimes so my personal choice is bar, but anything that works for you is fine.
 

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I can totally do a bar I just don't know where there is one around here that isn't screaming loud.<br><br>
I guess Grey's would be a choice!
 

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come on it's WISCONSIN!!! Of course there are! What a great idea for a Saturday date! There is a great new Micro in town that is quiet and has sofa's to sit on and board games to play!!
 

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There you go! Now go find the man to take on that date!<br><br><br><br><br><br><br>
*Otherwise I am going to come out and go on that "date" with you because it sounds fun. <img alt="biggrin.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/biggrin.gif">
 
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