[sistergoldenhair]

I am getting pretty tired of one of my friend's frequent comments when we get together for meals. Yesterday is the latest example. Our running group had a barbecue and people brought different items: hamburgers, Boca burgers, hot dogs, etc. I was in charge of hot dogs so brought lower-fat turkey dogs (not fat free or anything). Well she brought her own "real" hot dogs because she knew I was bringing the hot dogs and teased me more than once about my healthy ones.<br><br>
In the past when I have brought things to potluck dinners she has made her own version along with them. Sure I usually make recipes from Cooking Light, but they don't taste bad; I can cook ... what does she think mine will be "too healthy?"<br><br>
I kind of don't want to do any more potluck events with her any more.<br><br>
What gets me is she's a fitness instructor and runner too, has ~50 lbs. to lose (most post-pregnancy from having a baby in July), and every few weeks announces how she is again re-committed and re-focused on making the right eating choices for weight loss again. Changing some cooking methods could help do that (but I'd never make comments to her about that.)

 

[Buxtehude]

Weird!<br><br>
I have the same problem with my co-workers. "Oooh, Bux brought healthy food again!"<br><br>
My first thought is that she feels...what's the word I'm looking for...jealous, maybe. Self-conscious?<br><br>
You seem incredibly fit and based on pictures you've posted here, really good looking. Maybe this is her way of dealing with that.<br><br>
I guess I'd just ignore it as best I could. But that's easier said than done!

 

[diablita]

I'd like to hear what she brings next time if you volunteer to bring the cups and plates!<br><br>
Seriously, though, if she is a friend, I would suggest talking to her. Since you're bringing different dishes to each dinner and she's brining a full-fat replacement every time, that sounds a bit more deliberate than just wanting higher-quality hot dogs. If it bothers you, let her know that. I mean, it's not as if you are cooking light for her household every day; it's a friendly get-together with food, and I think she's forgotten the 'friend' part.

 

[fatmantrying]

I feel your pain. In you she might see what she really wants to be but will probably never ever be.<br><br>
I fight the food issue with people all the time, now. If asked over for dinner, I will suggest after dinner.<br><br>
What gets me is the people who "know" and constantly offer me the worst possible foods for me. My wifes best friend is a great example. I got tired of having to say "no, thanks" at least three times every time she insisted I eat something and I tried to make an addict analogy....<br><br>
I wasn't not eating stuff because I didn't like it... just the opposite... I loved that stuff but it tried to kill me once and I'm not giving it a second chance.<br><br>
Didn't help a bit. It's maddening.

 

[altoids]

Ummm,my mom has done the same thing with me for years. They wouldn't even taste my version because they knew it was lowfat. But now that my dad's had bypass surgery, I think this might change. They are making a real effort now!

 

[fatmantrying]

Sad but true, that would have been me as well.<br><br>
Actually in many ways it still is... I don't eat that many low fat versions of the stuff I used to eat. I changed almost everything about what I eat.<br><br>
But you know... I knew what I was eating was the worst of the worst, but I thought I was bullet proof and invisible. I didn't want to admit how much damage I was doing or how weak I was in regards to food. Basically I wasn't tough enough to do what was right and I would probably have made fun of SHG as well because she was in control of her health and I was envious.<br><br>
Sad but true..

 

[witchypoo]

ignore her.<br><br>
i've spent more than enough time pissed off about the comments my coworkers make about the salads, bread, etc. i bring, as it is either a) "too healthy" or b) made with "funny ingredients." what a waste of my time and energies. i bring what i want, it's everyone else's choice whether or not they eat it.

 

[wyrillco]

SGH, I get that too. My sister in law does the same thing. I don't get it. I mean, will it kill you to eat a lower fat hot dog? If so, eat a burger. Or some of the hundreds of fatty chips, snacks and desserts.<br><br>
Argh. I hate that. It's like they want to see you fail, and make a big deal out of what you are doing (not in a good way).<br><br>
I hate potlucks in general because there is never anything healthy (other than what I bring) and I apparently lack the control not to eat chips and dip all day.<br><br>
Talk to her about it. It does sound like she is probably a little jealous of you, and feeling failed in her attempts.

 

[Gingerbread]

When possible, tell her you're bringing "X" and bring "Y" instead, and just say you changed your mind at the last minute.<br><br>
She seems jealous, IMO.

 

[QuixoticNotions]

SGH, will you come to my next pot luck?<br><br>
There are severe shortage of even semi-healthy foods there.<br><br>
And I can't bring any, because I'm busy with the vegetable plate--- my only chance of avoiding the snack foods and cookies. <img alt="biggrin.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/biggrin.gif">

 

[Flounder]

Ha! Sorry just was funny to me.<br><br>
I do the opposite - If I make it for family at home - Light or low fat. If I bring something to work - I bring the full fat stuff, but of what I want to bring. I guess I care more about my family than co-workers.

 

[drgenie]

That is funny, Flounder. I do that too sometimes, because I don't want to hear it about ewwww, that's low fat? If it's something I can easily disguise then I make it my way. But at family gatherings I always try to bring healthy, and when I'm cooking dinner, it's good food, but healthy stuff. Simple healthy stuff, and always extra veggie dishes, or fruits if it's brunch, but......that's what I try to eat at home, so why be different when I'm cooking for company?