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Hi PRT,<br><br>
Normally I try to avoid posting stuff about my SO on the interwebs, because I feel like I can't really give a fair and unbiased picture of him in just a few lines (relax, this isn't going to be juicy). Even when I really, really want to rant, I try to hold it in, mainly because I know that I won't be giving an accurate idea of who he is and thus won't be getting accurate feedback.<br><br>
But desperate times and all that. The SO has been unemployed for over a month. Also, he kind of sucks at job hunting. This is the only time he's been unemployed in the four years we've been together, so I did not know that about him. The financial situation is getting grim, and he really, really needs a job. He has put in with a temp agency, but i worry they have let him fall off their radar (his last temping job ended 4 weeks ago; he has glowing references from the people at that office, but unfortunately they didn't hire him). He is looking for something in data entry/general office work. He has been all over Craig's list. He has put his resume on one of those job search websites. He has let the 3 people he knows in Chicago know that he needs a job. Not a peep. He is also getting super depressed and kind of scary. (scared for him, not of him). It does not help that he never finished his degree, as his parents passed away his sophomore year of college. He's talked about going back to school, but that necessitates a job first.<br><br>
In a way I want to give him a kick in the ass for not doing his search the way I would do it, but that's not really fair. I don't even really know where else he could be looking.<br>
Do you?
 

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That sounds like a tough situation and pretty stressful for the two of you. Is there anything he can do while he is looking for a "real" job. Such as bar tending or something like that? They make decent money and it is something for now. Is there anything like that he could get or might be interested in for the time being. It would bring in some extra money and make him feel as though he is contributing while he continues to look.
 

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Don't get too down on him. Encourage him. Give him pointers, but not in a condescending way (not saying that you would, just be aware of it...).<br><br>
Chances are that he's already beating himself up. And I'd be willing to bet he may be a wee bit depressed.<br><br>
I'd also encourage him to find some way to finish his degree. Even an associates will be helpful.<br><br>
This is a very, very, very hard time to get a job. I have been searching for 6 months, and I have a masters' degree. I just got my first interview lined up. But I was lucky, in that I had investment income to fall back on.
 

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And bloaw! Here I am!<br><br>
When I was temping, I signed up with 4 temp agencies because when one didn't have anything, I was always getting a call for another. I finally fell into a regular series of jobs with one particular agency (Ajilon) and that's how I ended up with my current permanent job.
 

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See, this is where it's hard for me not to get kind of judgmental with him. I know that if I were in his situation, I'd be doing something very similar to this. I'd spend a year waiting tables or something, and then when fall came around, I'd start applying to schools (that is basically what I did before going to grad school). I have to keep reminding myself that my way does not work for everyone, but...I <i>really</i> wish he would do things my way.<br><br>
Poor guy is indeed a wee bit depressed. Oh, he actually has started running, though! Maybe that will help <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/smile.gif">
 

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No advice. Just best wishes.
 

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bloaw, huh? <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/smile.gif"> I like it.
 

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I do it the same way as Nettie. Call as many temp agencies as you can find. He'll spend hours and hours taking all their tests and filling out their paperwork, but that's the way to get the phone ringing.<br><br>
Even just some day to day assignments for now will help with the money situation and help him feel better about himself. Eventually he'll fall into a full time job through one, or find a job on his own while he's temping.
 

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Do you have Employee Assistance program through your work? Ours offers free sessions to everyone in your household, up to six per incidence/need/whatever... It might be worth looking in to. Might help him work thru what he's going thru while he hopefully finds something, even temporary.
 

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ALl I can say is that following up on resumes sent is also something good to do.
 

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Well that is good. Running is always a good stress reliever. Just try to be as supportive as you can and maybe suggest, like other people here have, to sign up with a few different agencies and go from there.
 

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My SO has the opinion that if you don't have a job, then that needs to be your job-- which means 8 hours a day looking. If he can't find anything reasonable, then working at some crap job in the mean time is better than nothing--- say 6 hours a day working retail and then the 2 more job hunting. I agree with him... just putting in at a few places is not enough. Your way may not work for everyone, but obviously his way is not working because it's getting grim and he has no job. (Not that there's anything wrong with him, but his way is obviously problematic)<br>
Still, not much way to communicate this to him <img alt="sad.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/sad.gif"> other than just telling him.<br>
The running will help - it's hard once you get depressed and thinking you can't do it-- especially since potential employers tend to pick up on that and it affects negatively.<br><br>
Good luck to you two.
 

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Dude needs to pick up a retail gig until he kind find something more to his liking.<br><br>
So he has no degree and no skills and no experience?? Am I reading that right? I'd be depressed too.<br><br>
Are you ready to support this guy for the rest of your life? That's the question you should be asking.
 

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The book what colour is your parachute used to be the how to book of job searching. There is a bunch of stuff on the web on how to write cover letters and resumes. Marketing yourself sucks - I find its easier to market your SO or friends. Maybe you could offer to help him with his resume and cover letters. As for places to search with has he considered registering with a head hunting firm (or two)? They are always trying to match skills with jobs and they need people in their data bases. If you're in the Chicago area I bet there's lots of major ones there.
 

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Grrr. I feel his pain. I have been in a similar unemployed situation. It was really, really embarrassing for me not to have a job. What does he like to do? Does he bike, read comic books, draw? For me it came down to I already feel like crap. I might as well go and get an application, I can't go much lower. Ask him what he enjoys, than get creative. I started selling running shoes at our local store and moved up from there.
 

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Well...I know that I am having the best success (Right now I'm a professional temp) by putting in with more than one temp agency. Right now, I'm in with 4 and I have been assigned by two. When one ended, I called the rest and let them all know of my availablility. I was only down for 3 days.<br><br>
I suggest he give that a try. <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/smile.gif">
 

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I was out of a job for 6 months at one point. I gave up looking for a "good job" and found a job for $8/hr stacking boxes in a warehouse. It didn't take long for me to move up, I was on my way to inside sales before I left my management position.<br><br>
With that said, remind him that it takes baby steps. Baby steps...
 
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