[airehead]

<p>With all the crap in the news I've been wondering if someday I would know the vics or the perps in the article. </p>
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<p>Well, it's come home to roost.  Recently someone arrested for allegedly doing something unimaginable to a child was arrested and made the news, even across the pond.</p>
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<p>I read his name and thought, funny, I know someone with that very same name!  I looked at the pics and couldn't decide if it was him or not.  Mr aire was convinced.  I refused to believe.  Well, going through some old boxes I came across a letter from this man when I had my son, 20 years ago.  So, I decided to look him up on the net.  Putting the pieces together, I found, with a sinking heart and stomach, that it was indeed him that allegedly did those things.</p>
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<p>I knew this man 23 years ago.  He was shy, a little nerdy, but always so sweet to me.  He worked in the ROTC section where I was a student.  He was in his early 20's at the time.  He would flirt and laugh and give me advice when I was a cadet.  He was nothing but professional, never ever pushing the friendship beyond the boundaries.  He was at my wedding as an honored guest.  He even sent my son a gift when he was born, even though I was no longer in school and no longer a cadet.  I always felt a little bad because even as clueless as I am about boys, I knew he wanted to date me but either couldn't/wouldn't ask.  Mr aire, who was also a cadet, said it was really obvious.</p>
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<p>I have nothing but good memories of this person.  It's not that I refuse to believe what happened, but it's hard to reconcile the man I knew and the person who did these things.  If anything, I hate to say, it seems like his wife (also arrested) may have been calling the shots.  He wasn't ever a really "strong" personality.</p>
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<p>So, so, sad.  My heart breaks for the child and for the man he was but no longer is or never will be again.  I'm pretty sure he's headed to prison for a very, very long time.</p>
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<p>It makes me wonder if I should contact him in prison?</p>

 

[gretriever]

<p>Gut reaction - no letter. No. Not even if he somehow got your address and wrote you. No letter. No. </p>
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<p>If his mind has been twisted to the point that he would do things that would put him away for 'a very, very long time', as you put it, he could quite easily take your letter the wrong way. Which can  not mean good for you.</p>
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<p>He has to (if he can, and if he chooses) make peace and seek forgiveness from his God. And while you can forgive that in him, you are not required to - you cannot - have things be the way they were when you knew him. If you stick a knife in someone and pull it out, the wound may heal. But there will always be the scar. </p>

 

[airehead]

<p>Gdawg--</p>
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<p>you are probably right.  It's just a sickening situation.  (not that you are right, but the situation that family is in.)</p>

 

[Rainey]

<p>Not to top you or anything, one of my former patients of long standing ended up on crack. She went home to visit and killed her mom and cut her head off. Lovely.</p>

 

[airehead]

<p>I don't mean to sound weird, but I appreciate you sharing that. </p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>Rainey</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/73110/i-am-weirded-out#post_1990125"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Not to top you or anything, one of my former patients of long standing ended up on crack. She went home to visit and killed her mom and cut her head off. Lovely.</p>
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