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<p>You all know that my first grader Miss Sunshine is a chatty, strong willed kid. This year in school, the kids bring home a behavior chart for each day. A kid can get either E (excellent), S (satisfactory), N (not acceptable) and U (unsatisfactory). If you get 4 Es and only one S for the week, you can go to "lunch bunch," which is lunch with the teacher on Friday.</p>
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<p>Soli has yet to get to do lunch bunch, because she can't get 4 E's and only one S. She and 2 or 3 other kids never get lunch bunch. All the other kids manage to do it. Her typical pattern is to do well most days (Es), and then have a bad day where she gets an N. The N is almost always for excessive talking, but sometimes <em>also</em> for not following directions or for arguing with the teacher. Usually it revolves around the teacher wanting her to do something, and Miss S wanting to do it in a different way or do something else first, or whatever.</p>
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<p>I'm just not sure how to handle it. We talk about it after school, and she doesn't get dessert on N days. Usually she has some lame reason why it was an accident she got an N. So we're trying to work on taking responsibility for her wrong choices. </p>
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<p>She's generally not trying to be a bad kid. I love her bright and opinionated spirit. But I also want her to be respectful of her teacher and her classmates.</p>
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<p>How would you handle it?</p>
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<p>Soli has yet to get to do lunch bunch, because she can't get 4 E's and only one S. She and 2 or 3 other kids never get lunch bunch. All the other kids manage to do it. Her typical pattern is to do well most days (Es), and then have a bad day where she gets an N. The N is almost always for excessive talking, but sometimes <em>also</em> for not following directions or for arguing with the teacher. Usually it revolves around the teacher wanting her to do something, and Miss S wanting to do it in a different way or do something else first, or whatever.</p>
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<p>I'm just not sure how to handle it. We talk about it after school, and she doesn't get dessert on N days. Usually she has some lame reason why it was an accident she got an N. So we're trying to work on taking responsibility for her wrong choices. </p>
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<p>She's generally not trying to be a bad kid. I love her bright and opinionated spirit. But I also want her to be respectful of her teacher and her classmates.</p>
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<p>How would you handle it?</p>