[Colby]

How important is it to you to be respected by your SO?<br><br>
1 being not at all<br>
10 being very much so (but not psycho-so)<br><br>
Yes, this is a poll...wait for it!

 

[HighHeat]

10<br><br>
That doesn't mean respect for personal or professional achievements.<br>
That means respect for my opinions and perspective.

 

[Complete Pete]

10 - the most important part of the relatinship.

 

[jenna]

10<br><br>
For me as a person, for my feelings, for my thoughts, accomplishments, etc. And some respect in realizing I'm not a complete idiot.

 

[duckgeek]

10 for character.

 

[dg1]

R E S P E C T!<br><br>
10

 

[refinnej10]

Dude.

 

[Arrojo]

I find the question weird. I've never had to think about it in 26 years of monogomy.

 

[RandMart]

Ask my girlfriend how much my wife respects me.

 

[Biah]

<img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/smile.gif">

 

[Lintu]

Not a guy here. I've read that respect is the #1 most important thing (if you can say there's such a thing). It's not about how much or how little you argue or anything like that...it's about respect.

 

[HighHeat]

I'd agree with that based on my experience.

 

[equinox marathon 43]

I voted 10, and if there was an option for 11 or 12 I would have chosen that.<br><br>
If I don't respect her and she doesn't respect me, there can be no relationship. It's just doomed to fail.

 

[Colby]

See, I have a new acquaintance who bad mouths her husband in front of him and other people.<br><br>
I asked her about it in a sort of sarcastic sort of way, "Does he mind it that you tell others about that?"<br><br>
Her answer? "Nah. He doesn't need respect. He just needs me in bed. He doesn't have needs other than that."<br><br>
She's newly married, so my first thought was that maybe she just doesn't know...or then I thought, maybe there are men who don't care if their SO has respect for them. Maybe there are?! I'm having a hard time finding one, though...

 

[equinox marathon 43]

Sounds like a marriage that's based on a real solid foundation. <img alt="sad.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/sad.gif"><br><br>
There probably are guys that feel that way. I don't know any though.

 

[Lintu]

Wow, that is shocking! (I've only been married about 2 yrs...still find it shocking)

 

[bootsie]

*blink*

 

[Buxtehude]

People stay married for a whole lot of reasons that seem strange.<br><br>
I've given up trying to figure it out.

 

[HighHeat]

So is it better to be honest about your disrespect in this way... or to be dishonest, and the kind who presents a good face to the public, but disrespects your spouse's needs in private?<br><br>
Not that either is good in anyway... but which is more... I don't know the word I'm looking for... respectable? genuine? able to be overcome?

 

[OakDawg]

I'll be honest...if I had struck it rich (and\or famous) early in life and not met DW, I'd be looking less for a woman who respected me as someone who was drop dead gorgeous and very, um, willing. I'm not sure I'd ever feel the need to marry someone like that, but if they were insistent and I wanted them around badly enough, who knows? I could sit here and wax poetic about how wonderful love is and about how lucky I am to have a woman who loves and respects me as much as I do her (and it would be true enough), but the fact is there are all kinds of ways to fulfill my needs and I don't necessarilly have to get that kind of thing from my wife.