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I haven’t posted much about the kids recently because things have not been great. After having numerous meetings with counselors and evaluators, it’s been decided to move the kids to a home better equipped to deal with Little Miss’s emotional and anger issues. This is tearing our hearts apart, but she’s got issues that are beyond our ability to handle and we know it's for the best. Because the only stability she has is her baby brother, he went with her. We were lucky to find a place that can take them both. I can’t go into to many details here. I wish I could tell you what we’ve been through with her the past couple of weeks.<br><br>
Amy (Mrs CTW) says that she’s feeling a little better today, but I’m sure her emotions are all over the road. I don’t know if or when I’ll get over it. I’m the family fixer. I’m supposed to be able to fix things and even I had to cry uncle on this. I hate not completing something I started.<br><br>
We’re meeting with our social worker on Friday, but we’ve decided to take break. How long a break, remains to be seen.
 

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<img alt="sad.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/sad.gif"> I'm sorry chris. hugs to you and amy and the little ones.
 

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I'm sorry Chris. I hope you and your wife find peace in your decision and that Little Miss finds all the things she needs at her new place. <img alt="sad.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/sad.gif">
 

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I'm so sorry.
 

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((((Chris and Amy and kiddos)))))<br><br>
I'm so sorry! I will be thinking of you guys and praying for you. I can hardly imagine what you guys must be feeling right now. <img alt="sad.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/sad.gif">
 

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This is a son of a bitch <img alt="sad.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/sad.gif"><br><br>
{{{Chris and Fam and kids}}}
 

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Sorry to hear it Chris, but don't be too hard on yourself re feeling like you didn't finish what you started. As you know better than I, foster care is primarily an intervention. It may become permanent but sometimes its main purpose is to get from Step A to Step B and it appears your role was as boxcar, and not engine. Sorry for mixing my metaphors.<br><br>
You have made a positive influence in those lives, however brief. And that is what really counts.<br><br>
I'd hug, but you know, I know you're not that kind. <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/smile.gif">
 

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((((CTW))))<br><br>
What you did was great. Don't beat yourself up - fixing it wasn't your job. You gave them a safe haven during a very difficult time. You and MrsCTW are good people. A break is probably a good idea.
 

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Thanks Troops. I think the hardest part was that we were thinking this might lead into adoption of them both. The attorney already floated the idea by us.<br><br>
I was kinda digging being called daddy. And it wasn't a college coed.
 

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Chris - so sorry that it worked out this way for you. You are goof people and I know there is a reason ( I HATE when people say that to me though.. ... ) and maybe another speicial kid out there that really needs you both. I can't imagine how hard it is for you both right now though.
 

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Sorry, Chris. It sounds like you're doing the right thing for the kids. I hope you guys can stay strong and eventually be a good influence in the foster system again, when you're ready.
 

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Chris. No words man, no words. Hang in there.
 

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Dude, the children you are gonna get as foster parents are not going to be the nicest, sweetest darlings in the world. Most of the time by the time you would have them, they would have seen more abuse and discouraging acts then you or I would see in a lifetime.<br><br>
Unfortunetely, the best these kids will ever have is a brief stay in a stable home like yours before being uprooted and moved on to someplace else. All you can do is hope that a small amount of the love and stability you showed them seeped through their hard exterior.<br><br>
Be proud and happy that you were able to give them even the tiniest glimpse of hope.<br><br>
CS
 

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Sorry CTW.
 
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