I don't work, but my husband does (same situation you are in). Now, my husband's job is pretty flexible, so he doesn't work really late, but we were both training at the same time (he was training for a marathon, and I was training for a half marathon), so it took some creative planning. He always went running on Tuesday evenings while DDs were at gymnastics. Their gymnastics is across the street from our 1 mile trail, so they would walk to gymnastics, then he would run for an hour (I would do the same pushing my son in the jogger stroller). Then, he and I would switch off running our long runs on opposite weekends. Sometimes I'd run on Saturday morning and he would run on Sunday afternoon. He would also go running on Thursday evenings after the kids were in bed (yes, it was dark, but so what). He is also a very dedicated father and wants to spend as much time as he can with the kids, so I know where you are coming from. Oh, my DH is also the cook, so he comes home and cooks dinner, and he still has time for exercising and spending time with the kids. He gets home just after 5:00 everyday, though.<br><br>
I think moms and dads are guilty of putting everything first besides themselves, though. I know if I don't have some "me" time, I'm not going to be a very good mom for my 3 kids. Dads need that time too. It will probably be hard for your DH to understand until he actually starts exercising. He will have more energy for his kids, and he will just feel better. If he exercises for 30 mins. 3x a week, he will feel so much better. That is only 1.5 hours out of a week. The rest is for the family. Would your kids want to exercise with him? That is another thought. We take our girls running and biking often. There is no reason why family time and exercise time can't be combined. It would be a great example to your kids (obviously, you are setting a great example, but if DH exercised too, it would be even better, especially since they are all boys). You want them to understand how to balance everything. They need to see dad fitting in some leisure/exercise time as well. Maybe if you talk to DH about that aspect he will understand.