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Dear Mommy:

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Please don't email me with a problem that your college student should be handling on his/her own. I'm just going to tell you to tell him/her to speak with me.<br>
ack ack ack ack!
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This particular parent was asking for my help to get child into a class that is closed.<br>
it's closed. no room.<br>
plus, it's a technology class, set number of ' extras. Can't just drag a chair in from the hall and crochet a computer to participate, now can you????? sheesh.<br>
the STUDENTS should be doing the communicating....not the parents.<br><br>
Except if the student is soooo ill that they can't. I did have a parent once contact me because the child had been in an auto accident, and needed help getting to the right office for the appropriate action to be taken. But, that's different.
I'm not losing my mind on this one.<br><br>
Sometimes a little affirmation goes a long way.<br><br> kid's mom. AND on the 10th day for me not having soda...NOT a good day. Lol
Return email from mommy:<br>
"Here's what you should do to fix the problem...."<br>
Um.....yeah, I'll jump right on that.<br><br>
Said child is planning on stopping by my office today. We're going to have a chat about "being a grownup who wants to be a teacher" when I explain that closed is closed.<br><br>
What a great way to convince DS that really, Mom's help isn't always needed.<br><br>
That being said, I think there is a point where students should ask for intervention when they're trying to do something or find something out and are unable to do so. BUT, they should try to do it on their own that there's a little bit of gumption in ya!<br><br>
I mean, can you imagine if your child's teacher (who, for the sake of argument is a beginning teacher), were to bring in their mom when trying to contact you to sign a permission slip or some other school related task? What would you think?????<br><br>
I'll tell you how I handle it....<br>
I NEVER reply right when I get the email.....<br>
I sit on it.<br>
Then I vent<br>
Then I eat lunch or dinner, whichever meal is next<br>
Then I compose in my head<br>
Then I type<br>
Then I walk around the building<br>
Then I proof read<br>
THEN, I click send.<br><br>
This, I had to learn the hard way.
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My personal opinion...worth what it's worth....<br>
Is that in elementary school, somewhat in middle or jr. high, and possibly less so in HS unless there's an abrupt change in performance, it is the teacher's responsibility to contact parents to a certain degree. But, it's also the parent's responsibility to contact the teacher for a conversation if there's a concern.<br><br>
So, if mom thinks that child seems to be slacking, or isn't working up to ability/potential/etc. the parent could contact the teacher just to check in and express concern. It may be that the child hasn't performed differently for the teacher at all depends on where things are during the year.<br><br>
On the other hand, when mom contacts teacher because child "SHOULD" have received an "A" not a "C"...that's a different story.<br><br>
Know what I mean?
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Gold star stickers to Tri-Tammy.<br><br>
Sometimes, moms and dads can help with that process by role playing and doing "what ifs" with kids to get them ready. But, I have a feeling you probably already know that.
yeah....I see that as a valid vent.<br>
Why wouldn't the teacher allow any graded work to come home? That just seems odd. What about mid-term progress reports or something?<br><br>
And, speaking as one who also lost points for artistic lack (I couldn't even draw an amoeba in biology!), thank you for recognizing the BS in combining that with an academic subject. We who were scarred by mean art teachers applaud you.
I have to give this student some credit.<br>
She apologized for her mom sending the email. She told her mom not to, that she already had the emails out and that she could handle it herself, but mom went ahead anyway.
You've opened the AR can of worms!!<br>
And, I'm on your side.<br><br>
AR is great for those reluctant readers who need a little external motivation to read, to a point. It's not so great for those kids who ALREADY are good readers (like your DD and my niece) BECAUSE it's point driven.<br><br>
ACK ACK.....<br><br>
I think AR is misused by many teachers.....becuase they are young and inexperienced, because the administrator tells them to do incorrect thing.....because they don't want to use it the way it's intended.....blah blah blah.....<br><br>
AND, it's not great for kids like your DD, who are so much ahead that the ONLY books that are INTERESTING to them are in the middle school library in some cases.<br><br>
PM me for more ranting about AR if you're interested.<br><br>
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