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Please don't email me with a problem that your college student should be handling on his/her own. I'm just going to tell you to tell him/her to speak with me.<br>
Sincerely...<br>
Stitch<br><br><br>
ack ack ack ack!
 

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Come on, dish it out -- what sort of questions from worried mommies do you get? <img alt="biggrin.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/biggrin.gif">
 

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lol<br>
This particular parent was asking for my help to get child into a class that is closed.<br>
hmmmmm....<br>
it's closed. no room.<br>
plus, it's a technology class, set number of 'puters...no extras. Can't just drag a chair in from the hall and crochet a computer to participate, now can you????? sheesh.<br>
besides.....<br>
the STUDENTS should be doing the communicating....not the parents.<br><br>
Except if the student is soooo ill that they can't. I did have a parent once contact me because the child had been in an auto accident, and needed help getting to the right office for the appropriate action to be taken. But, that's different.
 

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A <b><i>college</i></b> student's mom did this?!?!?<br><br>
Helicopter parents...ick
 

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We had to call the "services" on a mom today...apparantly said kid not allowed to speak to counselor...I did a song that "opened up a can of worms" so to speak.
 

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I have one better. Parents calling company commanders that their child had there feeling hurt by the Drill Sergeant, asking "Can you tell the Drill Sergeant to not yell at my son/daughter?" To funny, what did you think was going to happen. What are they going to do when they are in combat and the bullets start flying?<br><br>
Of course there are Mom's joining the military so they can protect there child in combat. Hmmmm!
 

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you win!<br><br>
my mom has called my boss before to b!tch I didn't get yada holiday off. Was away at college, didn't even know she knew wher I worked.<br>
Once I also came into work to find a note on my timecard saying I was grounded. (I was married and living 1500 miles away) sometimes you just can't stop MoM <img alt="roll_eyes.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/roll_eyes.gif">
 

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I was manning a booth at a job fair at a college once and saw a mom stop at several tables looking for a job for her kid. Sad.
 

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Whew!!!<br><br>
I'm not losing my mind on this one.<br><br>
Sometimes a little affirmation goes a long way.<br><br>
Yes...college kid's mom. AND on the 10th day for me not having soda...NOT a good day. Lol
 

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OMG, Stitch this is so funny. I, too, work in a university and have parents call. I also had a spouse call once trying to schedule her husband...and parents calling about graduate school...helicopter parents <img alt="razz.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/razz.gif">
 

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Aaarrrrght!<br><br>
Return email from mommy:<br>
"Here's what you should do to fix the problem...."<br>
Um.....yeah, I'll jump right on that.<br><br>
Said child is planning on stopping by my office today. We're going to have a chat about "being a grownup who wants to be a teacher" when I explain that closed is closed.<br><br>
Humpf!
 

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This is too funny.<br>
I don't know how you all do it, but here's what just happened in my house this week....<br>
DS14 announced Wednesday that a girl (that he's been flirting with) took his January syllabus and wouldn't give it back. He wanted to know if I would ask his teacher for a new one.<br>
I told him that if he needed my help in asking his teacher for a new syllabus, that I would a few steps more for him- I'd go to school with him, help him get to all of his classes, sit with him during his classes/lunch and then help him ask her for a new syllabus.<br><br>
Last night at dinner he proudly announced that he has a new January syllabus. <img alt="biggrin.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/biggrin.gif">
 

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YAYAYAYAY<br>
Tri-Tammy......<br><br>
What a great way to convince DS that really, Mom's help isn't always needed.<br><br>
That being said, I think there is a point where students should ask for intervention when they're trying to do something or find something out and are unable to do so. BUT, they should try to do it on their own first....show that there's a little bit of gumption in ya!<br><br>
I mean, can you imagine if your child's teacher (who, for the sake of argument is a beginning teacher), were to bring in their mom when trying to contact you to sign a permission slip or some other school related task? What would you think?????<br><br>
I'll tell you how I handle it....<br>
I NEVER reply right when I get the email.....<br>
I sit on it.<br>
Then I vent<br>
Then I eat lunch or dinner, whichever meal is next<br>
Then I compose in my head<br>
Then I type<br>
Then I walk around the building<br>
Then I proof read<br>
THEN, I click send.<br><br>
This, I had to learn the hard way.
 

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Yah, had this and many more situations like it. I have had parents and students crying and arguing in my office, have had them email every honcho in the university, as if...<br><br>
Some people just cannot believe that they may not get everything they want in this life. Then they bring their parents to intimidate me. Accountability is a big problem these days, more so than it used to be, but that is a whole other discussion.
 

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At what age should parents not contact their child's teacher. My 6th grader's English teacher thinks he is capable of telling us when his work is not up to par. We thought she might contact a parent whose child is working below his ability.
 

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My personal opinion...worth what it's worth....<br>
Is that in elementary school, somewhat in middle or jr. high, and possibly less so in HS unless there's an abrupt change in performance, it is the teacher's responsibility to contact parents to a certain degree. But, it's also the parent's responsibility to contact the teacher for a conversation if there's a concern.<br><br>
So, if mom thinks that child seems to be slacking, or isn't working up to ability/potential/etc. the parent could contact the teacher just to check in and express concern. It may be that the child hasn't performed differently for the teacher at all....it all depends on where things are during the year.<br><br>
On the other hand, when mom contacts teacher because child "SHOULD" have received an "A" not a "C"...that's a different story.<br><br>
Know what I mean?
 

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I absolutely agree with you. There is a time and place. DS has been complaining about his math class and his grades have been getting worse. We called his teacher (her first year) and found out that she put Mr. Testosterone at a table of all girls. Hmmmm, no wonder he isn't doing well or asking clarifying questions. She agreed that she probably should not have done this and moved him to a mixed table.<br><br>
OTOH- DD16 is getting ready to begin a running start a the local community college. I will ONLY intervene with her if she has tried to work it out with the resources she has. She'll need to be able to walk up to her Prof's and have difficult conversations and HS is the best time to learn this very important skill.
 

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Gold star stickers to Tri-Tammy.<br><br>
Sometimes, moms and dads can help with that process by role playing and doing "what ifs" with kids to get them ready. But, I have a feeling you probably already know that.
 

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It really depends on WHY. There are many legitimate reasons to contact a prof/teacher. The issue is parents contacting schools because their child does not like their grade, assignment, whatever, etc. and wants the parent to intervene. Or the child cannot be bothered to deal with a situation so the parent does it for them.<br><br>
I have contacted my children's HS teacher when I felt I needed more information about an situation but never to request some sort of special treatment or change of grade.
 
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