[satfix]

<p>What is it with people who feel the need to confess their sins. As if their absolution or easing their conscience is justification for kicking someone else in the stomach.</p>
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<p>Do me a favor - if you did something to someone else and they don't know about it and if you tell them for no other reason that YOU will feel better about your screwup? Save them the pain and take it to your grave with ya, k?</p>
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<p>Confession may be good for the soul - but ignorance truly is bliss.</p>
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<p>end of vent and I think I'll start my friday drinking a bit early this week.</p>
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[airehead]

<p>Sometimes it's hard to know what's worse:  knowing or not knowing.</p>

 

[Grizzly]

<p>There is a bit of the tyranny of the 12 step program too, people coming forward to apologize for things you never knew happened.  There is a clause there though that says that you do that unless doing so would cause more harm.</p>
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[GaReb770]

<p>It is difficult sometimes to know if confessing ones sins or trangressions will make the person trangressed against feel any better.  That can be a really tough call. </p>

 

[SportiGrl]

<p>I'm with you, satfix ... leave sleeping dogs lay  ... or lie?  </p>
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<p>even if I can understand why somebody did something awful doesn't mean I'll keep them in my life so if they opted to do something on my NEVER FREAKIN DO THAT list they best hope I keep not knowing they did it ... I have elephantitus of the brain when it comes to crap ...</p>

 

[satfix]

<p>The 'act' to which they confessed was that they lied to me. The thing is - they didn't HAVE to lie about what they lied about! They could have told me the truth and the friendship would have been intact (or at least at a point where it wouldn't have completely cracked it).. but the person felt bad about lying and because they felt bad, they decided to confess they lied. The part that hurt was simply the lie which tells me the 'friendship' in that persons eyes wasn't of the same value as it was in mine.</p>
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<p>And, truth be told - I've been sick to my stomach all day over it. I left work early because I simply couldn't concentrate - and locked the refrigerator to keep me from downing beer all night.</p>
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<p>Ronan and I took a nice one hour walk; I called my mom to simply talk to her about good things (not about this event)... and that helped - but the sick stomach and headache is still here.</p>
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<p>Tomorrows another day - I'll feel better then.</p>
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Seriously people -- keep your confessions to yourself - it's not worth it.</p>
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[airehead]

<p>I know it freakin' hurts.  I've been there, trust me.</p>
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<p>What helped me a little was asking myself, were situations reversed, would I have lied?  It kind of helps decide if the person was just of poor moral character to lie or if it was just a normal human reaction to the situation and anyone in similar straits would have lied as well.</p>
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<p>Sometimes it is poor moral character that puts someone in a position to lie.  Sometimes it's just a normal human f-up and in the grand scheme not such a big thing.</p>
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<p>But it still hurts like heck.  All kinds of reasoning won't fix a broken heart.</p>