I just had a meltdown and could really, really use a hug. My DH is away skiing and my father came for a visit this week. He had asked to stay for a few days, but now he wants to stay for more like 10.<br><br>
I have one more month of heavy work and travel and need to invest what energy I have into that. Not in cleaning up after my father. I want to enjoy his visit, I really do. But I'm fighting a cold and when I need to nap he talks loudly on the phone. And when I asked him not to talk loudly or make a lot of noise while I'm trying to sleep (I'm a light sleeper; he knows this), he just looks at me like "who, me"? I go out and buy huge quantities of food so I won't have to cook & clean, but he has a very healthy appetite lately so no leftovers.<br><br>
He smokes, though he said he'd quit, and since he's staying in the room that will be the baby's room, he's making that room smell like smoke. I know we'll get the smell out, but I'm a hormonal pregnant woman and it's taking major self-restraint not to say something. But it's not like he can quit tomorrow. He said he'll try to quit before the baby comes, and he'll have to.<br><br>
And now he's looking for a job in the area so he can be closer to us and the baby. I know I'm going to have to lay ground rules at some point soon so that we'll be able to enjoy his visits and let him enjoy his granddaughter, but not have him here all the time (because he'll do that; I'm the only daughter who talks to him right now and he's lonely). I just don't want to have to do that.<br><br>
It's really not all that bad, and I'm more frustrated with myself for how I'm handling this, but I just needed to get this off my chest. I have no way to vent to my DH over the phone (I would NEVER want to hurt my dad's feelings by having him overhear) so I'm letting it out here. Thanks for reading; I already feel a little bit better.
I have one more month of heavy work and travel and need to invest what energy I have into that. Not in cleaning up after my father. I want to enjoy his visit, I really do. But I'm fighting a cold and when I need to nap he talks loudly on the phone. And when I asked him not to talk loudly or make a lot of noise while I'm trying to sleep (I'm a light sleeper; he knows this), he just looks at me like "who, me"? I go out and buy huge quantities of food so I won't have to cook & clean, but he has a very healthy appetite lately so no leftovers.<br><br>
He smokes, though he said he'd quit, and since he's staying in the room that will be the baby's room, he's making that room smell like smoke. I know we'll get the smell out, but I'm a hormonal pregnant woman and it's taking major self-restraint not to say something. But it's not like he can quit tomorrow. He said he'll try to quit before the baby comes, and he'll have to.<br><br>
And now he's looking for a job in the area so he can be closer to us and the baby. I know I'm going to have to lay ground rules at some point soon so that we'll be able to enjoy his visits and let him enjoy his granddaughter, but not have him here all the time (because he'll do that; I'm the only daughter who talks to him right now and he's lonely). I just don't want to have to do that.<br><br>
It's really not all that bad, and I'm more frustrated with myself for how I'm handling this, but I just needed to get this off my chest. I have no way to vent to my DH over the phone (I would NEVER want to hurt my dad's feelings by having him overhear) so I'm letting it out here. Thanks for reading; I already feel a little bit better.
