[jebba]

<p>DD (6 years old; first grade) brought home a note from her Spanish teacher today.  Over the past few weeks, she's needed "redirecting."  That means she wasn't following instructions or otherwise acting up, and needed to be threatened/cajoled into behaving.  She has Spanish every day for 30 minutes, and she's needed to be redirected once or twice a week.  It's been mostly minor stuff, apparently, and that's why I had no idea about it until the note home today.</p>
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<p>Today she apparently took another girl's pencil.  Then she told the teacher her vision was blurry, so she wasn't sure if she took the pencil or not.  She refused to take responsibility for making a wrong choice, and ended up spending 25 minutes out of a 30 minute class crying and kicking the wall. </p>
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<p>Accepting responsibility is a huge struggle with her.  She most often tries to come up with ways to blame other people or things for mistakes or wrong choices.  When I tried to talk to her about it today, she insisted that another girl made her misbehave, and then called me mean when I told her I was not going to honor her request not to share the note with her dad.</p>
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<p>After an extended time in penitence (read: sulking) in her room, she confessed that the pencil in question had a neat eraser, and she wanted to see if it worked.  The owner of the pencil objected, and they started to quarrel.  Then the teacher intervened, and DD didn't want to admit to wrongdoing, so she lied and said her vision was blurry, so she didn't know if she'd taken the pencil or not.  Once the teacher confronted her, she decided to loudly protest her innocence, because she was ashamed.</p>
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<p>*sigh*</p>

 

[Horrible Peanut]

<p>Is it too late to trade her in for a Border Collie or German Sheppard?</p>

 

[GaReb770]

<p>At least she's innovative.  I wouldn't have thought to use blurry eyes as an excuse  if I took someone else's pencil  in first grade.</p>
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<p>Now get ready for grades 2 - 12. <span><img alt="wink.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/wink.gif" style="width:16px;height:16px;"></span></p>

 

[jcumming]

<p>At the school where I was last year the first graders were by far those in greatest need of "redirecting" (never heard that term...I love it) and they also had the most creative reasons for some action taking place.</p>
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<p>Some days they'd almost have me convinced.</p>
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<p>....but it wasn't my first rodeo.</p>

 

[jebba]

<p>I hope I can glean from your comment JC that such behavior might be age appropriate, rather than the other conclusion that she's a bad-girl-rock-star in training.</p>
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<p>She had been getting almost uniformly good behavior reports every day after a rocky couple of weeks at the beginning of the year.  I guess she was saving her insanity for Spanish. We taught her "lo siento" this evening.</p>
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<p>Unsavory Legume - not after all the trouble I took to potty train this one.  <span><img alt="icon_smile.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/icon_smile.gif" style="width:15px;height:15px;"></span></p>

 

[jcumming]

<br><br><div class="quote-container"><span>Quote:</span>
<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>jebba</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/71533/bad-day-at-school-today#post_1967717"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I hope I can glean from your comment JC that such behavior might be age appropriate, rather than the other conclusion that she's a bad-girl-rock-star in training.</p>
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<p>I just found that the most creative stories came from first graders. Some were kinda subtle and some were subversive and a few were downright scary.</p>
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<p>Just remember that the real leaders don't get along by going along.</p>
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<p>...then again neither do the second grade dropouts. <span><img alt="icon_joker.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/icon_joker.gif" style="width:27px;height:23px;"></span></p>

 

[runfishhunt]

<p>My first parent-teacher conference for son no.1 (kindergarten) went something like this....</p>
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<p>Teacher: He sure is a cute little boy</p>
<p>Me/ex: How's he performing in class?</p>
<p>Teacher: His sole purpose seems to be to entertain his classmates</p>
<p>Me/ex: oh great.</p>
<p>Teacher: I think he's hyperactive and should be checked by a doctor</p>
<p>Me/ex:  uh, ok  (He was checked, doc said he was just an active kid and didn't need medicated)</p>
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<p>He also got a bus ticket his first week of school for swearing.  His crime:  standing on his seat and yelling at the kids on the bus to "shut the hell up!" when the bus came to a RR crossing and nobody would listen to the driver telling them to be quiet.  He was just trying to help....</p>
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<p>Thus began a K-12 career of interesting parent/teacher conferences, detentions for goofing off, occasional fighting.  His grades weren't spectacular but he did okay for himself, is a productive, trouble-free member of society and a wonderful dad.</p>

 

[GaReb770]

<p>I know what that means. <span><img alt="angel8.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/angel8.gif" style="width:33px;height:25px;"></span><br><br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>jebba</strong> <a href="/forum/thread/71533/bad-day-at-school-today#post_1967717"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-right:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-bottom:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p> We taught her "lo siento" this evening.</p>
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[airehead]

<p>This is truly a precious story.  Hard for the parents, I know, we have a ton of stories.  oy.</p>
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<p>I guess since my boy is all grown up I'm more a grandparent now.</p>
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<p>I'm so sorry, but I've been chuckling all night about "blurry vision".  I'm sure you'll be able to use this on her for years to come. lol</p>
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<p>I love how your re-telling reads like an after-actions report. teehee.</p>
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<p>My child was much like RFH's. </p>

 

[Mrtambalynman]

<p>My 4 year old is teaching working on his MA in temper tantrums.  I thought he was going to stop after his BA Hon.   </p>

 

[4boysmom]

<p>I've learned to dread the phone ringing during the school day.  Especially since 90% of those calls all begin with "This is Mrs. Smith, son3's teacher.  How are you today?"  Well, until you called...</p>