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...when someone comments on your weight in a positive way? As in, "Wow, you look great" or "You are looking so fit and trim"? Do you think it's too personal/inappropriate, that they are saying you used to be fat/unfit, or do you enjoy it?
 

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No, but the other day in the office, I said I was cold and everyone jumped on me and said if I would gain some weight I wouldn't be so cold and the one girl told me my skinny, bony ass could quit bitchin and go get a cheeseburger.........yikes! It was a bit tense, but I did not retort. Pointless.
 

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yes.<br><br>
If they say, "wow you've lost weight" I interpret to mean. "wow you were once a lot fatter!"<br><br>
If they say, "wow you look fit!" I interpret it to mean "wow you were once a lot fattter!"<br><br>
damned if they do.. damned if they don't, I guess.<br><br>
I'm working on my mental demons.
 

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To me they usually add "Well of course, you're slim. You walk all day long."<br><br>
Which is true.<br><br>
Not even to mention all the running I do in addition to the walking.
 

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Me too. I know some people do interpret it as "I was fat before?"<br><br>
(backstory: when I went to the dentist the other week, the hygienist there, who always does my teeth, seriously must have lost about 30-40 pounds and really looked fantastic, and I said so. I just hope I didn't bother her).
 

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well, I sort of mentally add "for someone who had twins two months ago" to the end of it. <img alt="sad.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/sad.gif">
 

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Yikes. Good point.<br><br>
Lily---pffft, you look great for someone who has never been pregnant, and even better considering you had twins!
 

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Many times I'll remove any specific comment about lbs. lost and just comment on how someone is looking fantastic. That way, if they are sensitive on the weight subject, the comment is still received in the positive manner in which you intended. <img alt="wink.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/wink.gif">
 

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I wouldn't be offended. I mean, when I lose weight, I know I've lost weight. So it's not like someone is telling me something I don't already know. And it's nice to be affirmed and complimented.<br><br>
But there's a woman at my office who has had some kind of diet-related surgery (not gastric bypass but something else) and every time I see her, I compliment her. She really does look FABULOUS and its such a dramatic change every time I see her (maybe once a week or so). And I just realized today that she doesn't really seem to like to talk about it.
 

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YES! Several years ago I was working on a railroad. It was winter, so 'standard attire' was long johns, jeans, turtle neck, sweatshirt, and then coveralls. Nothing feminine or flattering about that. I took a few months off, then came back in the spring. Track work attire was jeans and a t-shirt. A couple of the guys commented on how skinny I was. Uh, no weight loss here!
 

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The vast majority of folks here are fit and trim, so if someone says something it is probably because they've heard that you are training for something and they are being supportive.<br><br>
When they need to cast movies that are set back in a time when americans were slimmer, athletic departments would be a good place to start looking for extras.
 

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People comment about my weight all the time.<br><br><br><br><br>
I've gained about 10-15 kilos in the last year.
 

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I regularly get comments and frankly they start to get on my nerves. No people, I havent lost a real pound in months...I am not getting skinnier, I am not getting too skinny and I am not on a "diet" so stop commenting about it already. I give someone a break if they havent seen me in a while but the people always making comments are those that I see on a regular basis. I know damn well I dont look a bit different than I did 4 months ago so comments about me losing weight gets tiring.
 

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That was my wife. She doesn't have cancer, but got real sick (I'll keep the details out) and couldn't eat. She started out at 120 and was near the double digits. She runs marathons so she is used to people telling her she is thin, but they started to tell her she needs to eat and stop running, not knowing she wasn't running and not eating.<br><br>
She's getting better and has put on a few, but I'm sure she is tired of hearing how thin she is. <img alt="sad.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/sad.gif"><br><br>
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