["Roberto"]

I think I am. <img alt="sad.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/sad.gif"><br><br>
(it seems every time I bump my head a little depressions sets in afterwards)<br><br>
BUT<br><br>
I think I get jealous or insecure easily. Help me decipher the two.<br><br>
Are you this way?

 

[Xavier Dan Q]

What would it do to you if no one happened to post in this thread?

 

[wipaddler]

yes to both. I never thought I was and I guess my intuition was right as he was cheating on me but yes I am a jealous person.

 

[Xavier Dan Q]

To answer seriously... I have never been very jealous, but I used to be quite insecure.

 

[Horrible Peanut]

Yes to insecure about some things (but only slightly and now very few things)- no to jealousy.<br><br>
My girlfriend was set up on a date by her cousin- he's meeting him today. I trust her to meet the guy for a coffee and make a new friend, and if he's interested in her- she'll let him down easy.

 

["Roberto"]

I would feel insecure and think you did not like me.<br><br>
I would be jealous that other people received attention.

 

["Roberto"]

I hope that was a typo<br><br>
But that is some confidence you have right there. You trust her. If I were you in that situation, I would be a little worried.<br><br>
I guess that is insecurity on my end.<br><br>
Not jealousy, right???

 

[Xavier Dan Q]

I happen to like you. <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/smile.gif"><br><br>
Even though your insecurity and jealous-osity can be a bit annoying. <img alt="wink.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/wink.gif"><br><br>
Also...please quit bumping your head on things.

 

[Shades]

Funny, I was just accused of being jealous by my husband's ex just last night. Couldn't be further from the truth. I just wonder why she thinks I am.

 

[Horrible Peanut]

yes- it was a typo <img alt="smile.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/smile.gif"><br><br>
Fair enough- i feel very secure in my relationship with my girlfriend- even if it is brand new.

 

[CrazyEye]

Yes, and yes.<br><br>
I think my insecurity drives my jealousy.

 

[Xavier Dan Q]

But...you're a happening chic!<br><br>
I suppose this stuff isn't very rational.

 

["Roberto"]

I need to do that<br><br>
My girlfriend admits that she is insecure about the ex, worries sometimes. When she comes up in conversations, she clams up and I see her act differently.

 

[Shades]

Well, my DH was offered a second chance by his ex wife when he was with me and he refused her. So her ego is bruised and she has never gotten over it.

 

[HighHeat]

Mort, I had pretty much this <b>exact</b> thread typed up last night, but decided against posting it. I've done a lot of thinking about this lately, and am fairly sure that my jealousy stems from my insecurity, and that my insecurity comes from a pretty deep fear of being lied to. That's my history with a good number of people who have been close to me, so I now just operate under the assumption that people can't be taken at their word. I'm not sure I've fully trusted someone in a long time... and that's really what's at the heart of it for me.<br><br>
No, it's not fair to everyone I deal with now, but I'm working on that.

 

[Snowboy]

i know im insecure extremely insecure in fact. but jealous it takes alot to make me jealous.

 

[Buxtehude]

I wasn't much before, but now I am more insecure and jealous and all that "good" stuff.<br><br>
I'm trying not to harden, but I'm not sure how to avoid it.

 

[Buxtehude]

As far as seperating the two, I can't help you there.<br><br>
Hang in there, mort-pants.

 

["Roberto"]

That is where my insecurity stems from as well, lies. I don't tolerate liars or cheaters that well.<br><br>
Remember my post about the GF lying about something minor a while ago? That still gets to me. I wonder if she lied again, I wonder and my thoughts drive me crazy.<br><br>
At the same time, I'm trying to learn how to trust. My heart isn't cold just yet and think I have a chance at trusting someone.<br><br>
This is a GREAT relationship that I am in besides the one lie. Lies stick with me. I don't know if I will ever get over it, or if it will pass with time, I guess I am the one to decide here.<br><br>
The reason for my thread is a friend on a different forum just caught his GF cheating on him and sparked some insecurity. Also, the GF just moved and is a new spot in town, trying to meet people online, and sometimes it worries me if she includes me in her introductions, like "my bf and I went here and it was great" or something or if I am not included AT ALL for the sake of her searching for a potential hook.

 

["Roberto"]

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thanks, bux-face! <img alt="biggrin.gif" src="http://files.kickrunners.com/smilies/biggrin.gif">