[fox-runr]

any DOs and DON'Ts appreciated. PM me if you wish.<br><br>
I'm not suppose to know this person has bullemia, theyhaven't confided in me. I'm advising person on running and some red flags went up when they talked about "ideal weight". Another party has informed me that the person has a hx.

 

[witchypoo]

don't engage in any conversations about food, diet, calories, weight loss. emphasize running for fitness, total body health, mental well-being.<br><br>
you're stuck in a shitty situtation, because a person with ED shouldn't be exercising without some sort of medical oversight.

 

[QuixoticNotions]

No talking about weight. Emphasize HEALTH and what running can do.<br><br>
Running is what made me stop my Bulimia and go to counselling... and considerations on health.

 

[sistergoldenhair]

In what capacity are you advising this person? If it's anything professional/official, it should be in the open. It is dishonest of that person if it's not, and not entirely safe to be following a serious program. Not that you can "fix" them -- EDs are so complicated and beyond the scope of a running mentor.<br><br>
Since you noticed red flags on your own, you could always do the "concerned" : "You seem very fixated on weight, rather than running performance or health/fitness. Is there any possibility you have an eating disorder?"

 

[triciaflower]

Whatever you do, do NOT ever say anything about the person's weight.<br><br>
Even if it's a seemingly postive "you look like you've lost weight!" Someone with disordered thinking will perceive it to mean "I've always noticed your overweightness."<br><br>
If you talk about food, keep it focused on eating for energy or performance.