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I've read of at least one other Multisporter having one. I wonder if it follows from OCD Triathlete parents?<br><br>
My 11 year-old has been having a rough time of it at school lately. He lacks the "H" component and he's very bright - so he's doing fine academically - but he has issues staying on task and not getting distracted. Of course, we deal with him mostly early and late in the day when his meds aren't helping him either - which tends to raise the family tensions. Lately he's becoming a bit more socially "removed" - which saddens us and we're working to counter the trend.<br><br>
Anyone else working such issues? Got any good strategies to share?
 

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John,<br>
I am not an expert on ADD/ADHD, but I am an educator and have "seen it all." Having taught 5th and 6th grade, I saw this trend with many boys in my classes. For the majority of them, it was more about growing up and nearing the teenage years than it was about ADD or other similar issues. Something might be going on at school (with friends or enemies) and at this age, boys tend to shut down and refuse to talk about problems.<br><br>
I know know what meds he's on or what the dose is, but I have seen many students have their meds adjusted (dose, timing, or type) and see a complete turn-around. As body chemistry changes with the approach of puberty, it only makes sense that medication needs would change as well.<br><br>
I don't know if that helped, but it's very possible that you just have a normal boy who's growing up and approaching the teen years.<br><br>
-Abbie
 

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We have the "socially" removed going on with our son. Dxd with Asperger's. I really don't have advice. Just letting you know that I can relate somewhat.
 

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My biological daughter is doomed. Her daddy [me] was a DeadHead and a surfer; her Mommy was in the Navy. She can be alternately lazy and pokey or defiant and mouthy.<br><br>
She made her First Penance at 11:30AM, January 12, 2008. By 3PM that afternoon, she was ready to go back<br><br>
My adopted daughter will be Chinese.
 

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As a teacher I'm siding w/Abbie.<br><br>
Did you talk to the dr?<br><br>
I have one kid that is FINALLY getting to where he needs to be medication wise...it took...ummmm...6 months. I've seen that a bunch-needing to adjust meds.<br><br>
If he's also in "that stage," then well...we all went through it. I was awful.
 

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I'm an advocate for one of my inlaws's children with ADD, it's pretty frustrating working with the school to ensure that the classroom teachers "get it" and the school provides the services outlined in his IEP. In my experience, people will go back to their comfort zone unless there is someone, either a parent or outsider, keeping an eye on things. I have seen his teachers over the years treat him in a way that suggests a lack of understanding and compassion, rather they seem to be largely focused on assignments and making sure everyone is on the "same page".
 

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Yah... What we see is a growing reluctance to participate in sleepovers, overnight camp, etc. We think because he does have a hard time with self control early in the morning and in the evening - when his meds aren't helping him. I think it embarrasses him a bit and makes him uncomfortable. He's also having some issues working in groups at school developing the "it's my way or no way" attitude. (Yah, OK, I know I have that issue myself but...)<br><br>
Yah... You know... It's cyclical... You get a medication and dose and coping strategies that work for a while and then the damn kid grows or something and you need something new. We'll work through it.<br><br>
Yup... Different teachers have different abilities. I see that for sure. I also know they have a lot of kids to deal with and a lot of curriculum to teach. I don't envy their roles at all.
 

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LRR: My DS8 has a genetic condition that has many side effects, including attention issues. He is on meds during school, but we typically don't have him take the meds on the weekends.<br><br>
Homework is REALLY hard as he is physically exhausted when he gets off the bus (lowtone in his core and fine/gross motor delay are other side effects), so we have him do the homework after dinner. Well, by 7 PM all meds have worn off and it is so, so, so HARD to get him to focus. And so very, very hard to keep your patience. I don't really have any suggestions other than to keep the faith........sometimes I lose my patience and I feel so guilty. I just have to keep trying.<br><br>
We have his 3 year IEP/evaluation meeting on Monday and there will be 5 people on his team there: His 2nd grad teacher, his case manager, speech therapist, physical therapist and his occupational therapist. Thank god Londonderry has such a good SPED dept, we are getting our monies worth from our taxes, that is for sure.<br><br>
So, bottom line, I get what you are going through and I know it is SOOOOOOO HARD<br><br>
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