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#1 of 12 Old 08-10-2011, 02:38 PM - Thead Starter
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I just received 5 messages from former colleagues and friends in Montreal. 

 

http://www.cjad.com/CJADLocalNews/entry.aspx?BlogEntryID=10271929

 

I feel sick. 

 

 


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I consider myself a pretty open-minded guy - but this is one thing that like you - makes my stomach sick.

 

I simply can't comprehend this...

 

They say it's a result of being abused as a child?

 

Sorry to hear this hitting so close to home Griz.

 

 

(we had 12 people lurking at ONE TIME!!! WOW!! Tearin' it up!!!) - my futile attempt to lighten up a very NOT light topic.

 

 

 

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We called him the Prince of Darkness or Dorkness depending on the day.  He suffers from chronic migraines and asked that the fluorescents be taken out above and around his desk...  the dorkiness?  Well he was "rumpled", had chronic dandruff, was a horndog, hoarded the weirdest things, bought cheap (and disgusting) food...  he was a mess.  Came from the unionized ranks, always had a union mentality, but knew his stuff.  A bit of a computer geek. 

 

But there was nothing to suggest ANY of this could have been happening. He'd give you the shirt off of his back (not that you'd want it). 

 

I can't imagine what his family is going through right now, or what the families of the kids at the daycare are going through.

 

Ugh. Ugh. Ugh.


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Child porn/pedophilia ranks up there with rape and murder in my book.  No punishment is too harsh if found guilty.

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Sorry to hear that Grizz, that has to be tough to wrap your head around.

 

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Didn't sleep well last night, and contacted a buddy in Montreal this morning.  The office is just torn up over this.  When I say office I don't just mean work colleagues - we had a real solid group of friends - people invited to weddings, godparents, best men that sort of thing.  For that reason alone it was the best job I ever had or ever will have - we cared about each other and looked after each other.  Still do.

 

My buddy was the godfather of the accused's first son.  The buddy was choked up on the phone.  Several friends have contacted the EFAP service at work over this. 

 

One colleague (not part of the group of friends) had seen cops at the house on Monday morning and called to ask if anything was wrong.  A son told him "My father is dead".  So that's the news that swept the office.  My buddy called as soon as he heard and got the full story from the accused's wife.  His comment... "I felt better when I thought he was dead."

 

We have a mutual friend (part of the group) who works for the railway police force and he said that if the investigation has been going on for 2 years and they are charging him they have the goods.  These kinds of cases are so sensitive that they don't go off charging unless they know for certain that they have enough to convict.

 

My buddy said what I had been feeling.  He said that while everything about this is repugnant and abhorrent and evil, the accused is still someone we have cared about for a long time.  Despite the fact that we might not want to ever see him or have anything to do with him ever again, it's hard not to care about him and yes - even worry about him.  And yes, that means that I wish the news was that he had died.

 

 


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Wow. I just don't know how I'd feel sad.gif


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Oh, Grizz.  I am so sorry for you, and your friends. 


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Nn-specific stream of consciousness stuff.

 

  • This is really bothering me.  What is strange is that although former friends and colleagues from my days in religious life have been charged with similar offenses, and that did bother me considerably, it didn't chew me up as much as this is.  Perhaps it is because this man was married and is a father - in other words his life was similar to mine.  If I had remained in the order their crimes might have chewed me up just as much as this. 
  • I have had a number of conversations with colleagues and friends from Montreal.  The common refrain is that "the Kim we knew is dead".  While I understand that statement I don't believe it.  If so, when did he die?  The Dad who had a barbecue with his friends and family on the weekend is dead because on Monday he was arrested? 
  • Choices.  He made the choice to go down this road.  Just as people who are smokers and contract lung cancer - their addiction is the cause of their situation, but it was a choice.  I can accept that too, and it helps.  This was his choice.  But where was his moral compass in all of this?

 

 


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Some people are just evil and it is hard to understand when it becomes personel.  It is easy to say that I would recongnize it or know that person is bad, but it can be hidden just like anything else.  We may not have seen or thought we had the intuition to see it so it's hard to comprehend when we miss it.  Plus it's even harder to comprehend the complusion of someone wanting to commit those actions. There is evil in this world and who are we to think that it can't get close enough to live in our inner circles.      

 

The worst part is the devastation this leave behind including his family, children and friends who have to live with the result of his actions.  I am sorry Grizzly for this experience and hopefully his family will have a strong circle of people to come around them and help them survive.


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The worst part of a situation like that is wondering if there is room in your heart to keep him in your life.  I would have a hard time with that one.  There are certain crimes I can't get my mind around.

 

The guy is the same guy, just people are really good at compartmentalizing things--and the less society approves of a behavior, the deeper it stays.  

 

That being said, within the last three years I've had this situation come up twice.  A young man I knew in passing was incarcerated for child porn issues.  He was a great guy, everyone liked him--until he was arrested.  No one spoke to him after that.  Not even his parents.  He had no money, nothing.  I found a way to deposit money in his commissary account--I felt until he had been judged by the court, he was still innocent.  I also got him hooked up with the chaplain.   When he was judged guilty, I stopped putting money in his account.  

 

The second was the story I posted not too long ago about a dear friend who was arrested for seriously neglecting/abusing his granddaughter.  My heart breaks, because everyone judged him without knowing the facts.  I don't even know the facts, nor will I ever know them.

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Well the news ain't good.  Last week he tried for bail and had an Anglican Priest vouch for him.  Looked fine until he gave the judge an address and the bailliff said "Uh, wait a minute..."  Turns out that it was the address of someone who had just been convicted of sex offences.  "What?  The place is empty - the guy's in jail." 

 

His lawyer asked for a minute to be with his client and the hollering could be heard in the courtroom.

 

At any rate here's the latest.  His friends have thrown up their collective hands and to quote the email I got this morning:  "Can you )&*&#$ believe this guy?"

 

Article here

 

He'd  better quit his job now, because if convicted (and he will be) he will lose all his pension.  He won't care, he'll be in jail for the rest of his life, but his family sure could use the money.


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